Month: October 2016

What you allow is what will continue. The question is “Will you allow your life to continue to expand from 50 to 100+?”

If your answer is no, you already tend to resist the harsh losses that come your way: a trusted friend moves away, a trusted doctor retires, a pet/friend/family member passes away. Your “no” becomes a sort of unending grief in your life because this life, while glorious and wonderful, hurts sometimes. Beyond a period of time during which your spirit processes the loss and finds solace, you stay stuck in the sadness and even turn it into anxiety and dread. The soulful life you enjoyed before the loss shrinks.

If your answer is yes: “Yes, I want my life to continue to expand,” you still grieve the small and large losses that confront you. The difference in these choices is that, if you choose yes, you’re a better candidate for membership into the Big Adventure Support Group, and potentially, you remain a more open-hearted person seeking a fuller, more soulful experience of being alive.

The phrase “shrink resistant” doesn’t mean that you harden your heart and “armor up” against the flow of life. Hardening your heart toward life is how lives shorten and happiness fades. Shrink resistant can simply mean that, as you seek a balance between allowing your spirit to feel the sadness of loss and the joys of gracious living, you find a stoppage point for your grieving and allow your spirit to keep opening up and inviting more and more love in. This is my prayer for you.

Consider this positive affirmation to stay open: “I allow my spirit to live freely and stay open to life and love.”

To you with love always,

Dr Mell