Category: General

What you allow is what will continue. The question is “Will you allow your life to continue to expand from 50 to 100+?”

If your answer is no, you already tend to resist the harsh losses that come your way: a trusted friend moves away, a trusted doctor retires, a pet/friend/family member passes away. Your “no” becomes a sort of unending grief in your life because this life, while glorious and wonderful, hurts sometimes. Beyond a period of time during which your spirit processes the loss and finds solace, you stay stuck in the sadness and even turn it into anxiety and dread. The soulful life you enjoyed before the loss shrinks.

If your answer is yes: “Yes, I want my life to continue to expand,” you still grieve the small and large losses that confront you. The difference in these choices is that, if you choose yes, you’re a better candidate for membership into the Big Adventure Support Group, and potentially, you remain a more open-hearted person seeking a fuller, more soulful experience of being alive.

The phrase “shrink resistant” doesn’t mean that you harden your heart and “armor up” against the flow of life. Hardening your heart toward life is how lives shorten and happiness fades. Shrink resistant can simply mean that, as you seek a balance between allowing your spirit to feel the sadness of loss and the joys of gracious living, you find a stoppage point for your grieving and allow your spirit to keep opening up and inviting more and more love in. This is my prayer for you.

Consider this positive affirmation to stay open: “I allow my spirit to live freely and stay open to life and love.”

To you with love always,

Dr Mell

Bold moves aren’t just meant for 20 year-olds. Pushing past our cozy comfort zones moves us to clarity and connection no matter what age we’ve achieved. As long as we keep seeking big thrills throughout our entire lives, we continue to have breath-taking moments and draw closer to our best lives each time we reach.

As we change, grow and age, we keep searching for where we truly belong. Those moments, places and spaces lead us to and through our Big Adventure. What an awesome life this is!

There’s no better time to launch your new plan, expand your bucket list and craft your Big Adventure vision board. Your possibilities are limitless!

The world keeps opening up in ways we couldn’t have dreamed of 10 years ago. We’re becoming more and more awake to our potential, and the barriers that used to hold us back–cultural roadblocks and untested assumptions–are falling away.

Our parents at 60 perceived their lives in dramatically different ways than we do at 60 (or 70, 75, 80). This is the perfect time to make big, splashy plans.

Let’s set our sights on healthy, flourishing lives in our 90s. I can see it now! You?

She’s living the dream. Check out this Big Adventure: Next Avenue Ballerina

It’s September—school bells are ringing, parents are singing—and that means it’s time to redirect your energies to purpose and progress after draining your stamina under the sizzling summer sun.

My mind is on directing the energies of some inspired souls to a Big Adventure Support Group.

I’m inspired by the wisdom that dreaming big and living large is just as important and fun for 50+ adults as it is for younger people. Would you like to join in supporting other 50+ dreamers who believe that The Universe is poised to shower us with a big ol’, magically amazing downpour of awesomeness?

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The mission of the Big Adventure Support Group is to have fun in pursuit of flourishing.

We believe that our golden years really can be.

We are aligning with our true selves.

We benefit from the courage of like-minded adventurers and pay their positive impact on us forward.

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That’s it. We’re coming into our own, draining the juice out of every single day. We’re not promised tomorrow, so we’re not wasting precious time. We’re living our Big Adventure right now!

How about you? Are you in?

Dr Mell

I am a Maker.

I’m rather domestic for someone who loves sitting with a good book for hours. I love to grow flowers for bouquets and herbs for cooking, to make fresh, crisp salads, hearty entrees and yummy desserts, to sew heirloom garments for my daughter and grands.

When I feel pressure from day-to-day life or difficult relationships, I like to make something beautiful as a pleasant distraction. Like most everyone in the free world, I have complicated people in my life, and I have had a personal history with toxic types. The most freeing, most loving thing that I can do for myself when complicated people try to test my goo nature is to make something beautiful.

Try it for yourself. Find or start or re-start something you love to make and escape into the flow you feel in the midst of happy creation. Try it now. Be a Maker.

In the Deep South, the summer heat seeps up from the ground, flows down from above and permeates everything and everyone. We have some serious summer weather in Georgia, and this June is summer in earnest.

When I can, I love to sit in the shade and allow summer to radiate in and around me. I love the sights, sounds and smells of summertime. One of the best perks? Laziness is allowed–pretty much expected–in summer. Let the warmth relax you.

When you slow down, time slows down. Ahhh.